Girl With A One Track Mind and Female Sexuality
Sunday, October 11, 2009 by Anonymous
Christina Aguilera sang "the guy gets all the glory, the more he can score, while the girl can do the same and yet you call her a whore". Though I'm not usually such a fan of Christina, this statement does hold obvious grains of truth. In the offline world, its socially acceptable for men to be as sexually active as they want. It's not that easy for women. Society dictates, even in this day and age (or at least, to some extent) that women should wear a certain amount of clothing, be kept away from sex until a certain age, only have a certain number of sexual partners etc. etc. etc. Basically the idea is that women should be kept at a 'safe' distance from sexual practice or discourse. Utopian cyber-feminists (and I suppose "optimistic" internet democrats alike) celebrate the internet as a place for women to escape the rules and restrictions of offline society. I think that the internet does allow women to express a more sexual side of themselves than what society deems "acceptable" of them (perhaps this is due to the anonymous potential of the net). When Luke mentioned the blog 'Girl With A One Track Mind' in the lecture a few weeks ago, I thought it sounded familiar (though I had never actually read a blog before) and I decided to check it out. Indeed, the blog offers a space for one anonymous woman (Abby Lee is an alias) to write about her sex life and her sexual desires (in a pretty explicit way). She talks about everything from her favorite sex toys to her dates: "..sitting there, in that café, with his lips against mine, had left me so horny that I wanted to fuck him then and there." Not the usual conversation most women would feel comfortable engaging with in the real world. And yet this particular post has received 56 comments to date. While there are certain taboos about what women can talk about in society, it certainly does seem that with blogs such as this, utopian cyber-feminists can rejoice in the fact that women get to acknowledge their sexuality and undo society's preference for "thinkin' all woman should be seen not heard" (Christina Aguilera).