Cyber Infidelity & Dating Online
Sunday, August 16, 2009 by rs09
Does 'cheating' on the Internet still count as 'cheating' in 'real life'? &
Can serious 'relationships' really be formed from online dating sites?
Who knows. I guess it comes down to individual preferences and opinions. One person might argue that; yes, it is a form of cheating and then argue that no, relationships cannot be created, performed and sustained purely through Internet dating sites.
Cyber infidelity can often be a tricky issue to discuss for some it may trivial and sound ridiculous, but for others it may be just as serious as 'cheating' in 'real life'. One wonders to what extend the Internet and new media are being used for infidelity. Are partners engaging in things like 2ND life sex or chat sex? or are they discussing locations and times through the Internet and then meeting up in 'real life' to engage in the acts. Similarly if a person catches their partner engage in this cyber form of cheating would they simply laugh it off and take the whole incident on a trivial level, or would they feel shocked that this is not only cheating, but 'cyber cheating' an even lower form of cheating if you will. So it is through this that one realises that cyber infidelity can have both physical and emotional attachments drawn to it and often the surrounding perceptions of cyber infidelity happen to be of the person being different, weird, distressed or sick. However more often than not this is not the case, and people possibly turn to this for its easier 'access' than 'real life' cheating or its anonymity that they may not be seen in the public eye.
On a lighter note, Dating Online. Again this could lead to a 'meet' in the cyber dimension and then a 'meet' in the 'real life'. Which according to most cinematic depictions often ensures hilarity. "You're not 6 foot", "You're not a size 6!" (Sione's Wedding). Also one thinks that cyber dating adds a whole new dimension to dating in that a 'relationship' could be maintain exclusively on the internet and the two 'partners' never meet. The question then arises would the two ever be comfortable meeting, and who are the 'partners' actually intrested in? The 'real' person, or the internet user?
And finally i'll end with yet another question. If you 'met' someone on an internet dating site, then met in 'real life' and got married later on. What story woul you tell family members, the internet 'meeting' story or the 'real life' story?
RS
Can serious 'relationships' really be formed from online dating sites?
Who knows. I guess it comes down to individual preferences and opinions. One person might argue that; yes, it is a form of cheating and then argue that no, relationships cannot be created, performed and sustained purely through Internet dating sites.
Cyber infidelity can often be a tricky issue to discuss for some it may trivial and sound ridiculous, but for others it may be just as serious as 'cheating' in 'real life'. One wonders to what extend the Internet and new media are being used for infidelity. Are partners engaging in things like 2ND life sex or chat sex? or are they discussing locations and times through the Internet and then meeting up in 'real life' to engage in the acts. Similarly if a person catches their partner engage in this cyber form of cheating would they simply laugh it off and take the whole incident on a trivial level, or would they feel shocked that this is not only cheating, but 'cyber cheating' an even lower form of cheating if you will. So it is through this that one realises that cyber infidelity can have both physical and emotional attachments drawn to it and often the surrounding perceptions of cyber infidelity happen to be of the person being different, weird, distressed or sick. However more often than not this is not the case, and people possibly turn to this for its easier 'access' than 'real life' cheating or its anonymity that they may not be seen in the public eye.
On a lighter note, Dating Online. Again this could lead to a 'meet' in the cyber dimension and then a 'meet' in the 'real life'. Which according to most cinematic depictions often ensures hilarity. "You're not 6 foot", "You're not a size 6!" (Sione's Wedding). Also one thinks that cyber dating adds a whole new dimension to dating in that a 'relationship' could be maintain exclusively on the internet and the two 'partners' never meet. The question then arises would the two ever be comfortable meeting, and who are the 'partners' actually intrested in? The 'real' person, or the internet user?
And finally i'll end with yet another question. If you 'met' someone on an internet dating site, then met in 'real life' and got married later on. What story woul you tell family members, the internet 'meeting' story or the 'real life' story?
RS